Now You Know Your Colours Part 2
Stasia’s Style School is here.
Part 1 of this series about managing change is here.
The post on changing hair colour is here.
More strategies for success post-PCA:
1.Bring 3 to 5 items of clothing to your colour consultation. The analyst can help you work through how to integrate these items into your future wardrobe.
Maybe you’re a Soft Summer and your favourite beige jacket has dark gray lapels. Great!!
You may have walked in a Spring and left an Autumn. People don’t react to both types of colours equally but there are colours that both wardrobes can share, especially in fashion neutrals. Harmony is about agreement and many colours share enough that they can continue to work in your favour.
2. Keep apparel that you love. It feels like home, rather than feeling that you need to rush out and replace everything. Let the colour information settle and just look for a week or a month to make better choices. Spend the early money on cosmetics, which may be shared by more than one Season, but also an area where I find being specific has bigger-faster appearance payoffs.
3. Educate yourself about the Season before you buy. Soft Summer is So. Not. all mauve and gray. The Test Drapes may give that impression because their job is to separate Summers and Winters, not so much to be what hangs in a closet. Their colours are specific, hard to find, and also not necessary. Reading material and visual resources abound to broaden your scope before you take on the mall and win.
4. Remove yourself from the equation in comparison decisions. Take two pictures on your phone. Compare them like she’s a woman on a bus. In which do her clothes wear her? Pretend she’s the speaker at a conference. Would you be distracted by either woman’s makeup, admire it, or ignore it? Which one gives the impression of a competent professional?
5. Help others be objective. When asking for feedback, frame your questions to neutralize your relationship with the person from the equation. Keep changing the two images or they’ll carry over a decision about one picture into the next comparison.
6. Think through spontaneous actions. Especially of the hair variety, the reasons for the suggestion may be great but “we’ve never done it”, “brighten you up”, and “fun for the holidays” may not number among them.
The video below is also here on YouTube.
7. Ask not of others what they cannot give. Nobody can imagine how you’d look in this blouse or that one. They may be influenced by how they predict they’d look in the blouse, how they feel about the colour, what they think you want them to say, and so on.
8. Interact with people who actually know you. If they only see you online, they only engage with a subset of your energy. People say to me, “You look exactly how I thought.” Just as often, I hear, “You look totally different from what I expected.” From pictures, we don’t know because we can’t know.
9. Start with colours you like. For many people, that means blue and teal. Teals tend to look good on many Seasons. Choose colours as they appear in your palette instead of what you think you see in your eyes or hair.
10. Start with items you enjoy buying. I like jewelry. My recent student (from New Brunswick, Canada, oh yes!) loves scarves. Many women love jackets. These are places where we feel good energy, are familiar with the options, and the good stuff comes to find us.
11. Try broadly. Test your different selves. Overthinking will have a True Winter wearing black, white, black, navy, black, and fuchsias. Period. The breathtaking colours are often blue-purple, clear matte red, dark pine green, and steel gray. Use your entire palette of colours, not necessarily is equal surface areas.
12. Expect pushback. It is not our job to manage, let alone satisfy, the appearance preferences of others. Everybody has theirs. You do you. Beware family members, especially young children who can see us as their property. Witnessing our journey as our energy changes helps them accept that it’s still us and they still have to empty the dishwasher.
13. Be a little bit brave. It is not your responsibility to be right or else. The Universe won’t collapse if you wear a too-bright-green top or make a purchase that isn’t the best a month from now. You will still be miles further on your path than before your PCA. On our way to getting anything right, we will be not-right a few times. As it says in a book series that changed my life (The Magicians, a trilogy by Lev Grossman, here on his website):
The way out is through.
14. Aim for functional to a high degree. “My best” or “my perfect” may be immobilizing. A wardrobe is an ecosystem in which all the parts speak to one another with the same voice, or close enough to create alignment/agreement.
15. Stay in the joy of it. “I am loving this.”, “I am so excited for how much is here for me and for what’s coming.”, and “I am so grateful to have been shown my way.” are powerful thoughts that have a profound influence on the unfolding of the experience, in tangible and intangible ways. Being someone other than who you were yesterday can be a place of joy or a place of anxiety. Control your thoughts. Stay in the upward spiral.
Colour is for everybody. We understand the confusion, respect the vulnerability, and have lived through the answers. We are here to reunite you with colours that are already yours.
Header image, Photo credit: Sonja Mason.